Is there a thing such as a perfect dating life? Perfect Guy? Perfect relationship? If you can answer all the above questions with a smiling yes, maybe you should pass this blogspot to someone who really needs it. Or maybe your living in a fantasy land and need some assistance back down to earth. There’s no need to hate every male you come in contact with, but there are some common male stories, lies, and habits to avoid. I’m not bitter, just educated on ways of some males.
Believe me you are not the only one going through it or been through it. Take time to vent and share you experience, you could help someone else out. Who knows your stories may end up in my book.
Also ladies please pass this blog spot onto other females who may have a story. Let's make it around the U.S in less than a month. Stories from all states will be great!
- His phone went dead
- He loves you
- Your the only one
- Momma Drama ( his mother can't stand you)
- She's just a friend
- Timeshare... no time for you
- Cheated before
- Lies, Lies, Lies
- Commitment
- Past Relationships
- Divorcing
19 comments:
Girl, this is a great idea. All the lame excuses that we get with no explanation. I am a firm believer that learning from you previous "man" will help improve your chances of finding the next good one...And im glad to see you worded as being"not bitter but educated on men" this in the mans eyes serves as the same but to women that have heard it all and seen it all its great to be ahead in the game....
Alison! Love the idea! I told my friends about it and we already starting discussing topics: I am the way I am, because my Ex hurt me.
I am excited to see some of the stories out there, I think what we will realize is the same information is being fed to women everywhere.
Great blog, but you should also bring up how some womans actions lead to their own downfall. And its not always mens fault.
No worries that will be included in the conclusion of the book. This blog is just to get stories of real Women. Thank you very much for commenting.
awww Look at you Allie lil journalist in the making!!! What I would like to comment on is the mama drama!!! Whether his mother likes u or not, I think the relationship can still move forward in a positive direction IF he's a REAL MAN and not a boy who still thinks that his mother knows him INTIMATELY!!! I feel like a GOOD mother would want her son to be a happy man who can think and make decisions for himself without the influence of her beliefs and wants!!!! Some mothers need to learn to just mind their own freakin' business!!!
I recently received some interesting advice and today I felt compelled to share it. Just a warning I know a lot of ladies won’t agree with the following and may think I am crazy but I think this is the so real….
I realized that there was a crisis going on…the world if filled with LAME men, or better yet BOYS. It is almost impossible to find someone that can be HONEST and keep it 100. I never thought that was too much to ask but apparently it is. A part of the problem is men mature a lot slower and they don’t want to settle down when we do. As females, we find ourselves constantly asking where are the REAL men at? We continue to get caught up with men who are NO good and at the end of the day we are the only ones hurting. Why look all these qualities that more than likely you will NEVER find in one person?
Dudes seem to have a million females at once. The stories that I have heard in the last couple of months will prove the point, I will soon make. You have guys that are supposedly in a committed relationship but they lie and have relationships with other women. No, I am not just talking about fucking them, real emotional shit. How on earth do you live a double life? I guess it is easy to be a player when you have girls in different area codes. Then again the females that feed into their bullshit, keep them in the game. Why must we continue to entertain their lies and enable them to continue to play games? I am not buying that mess, definitely not affordable. Next, you have the guys who claim they are the realest nigga and they are faker than Beyonce’s hair. How are you keeping it real when you are creeping a around and falling deeper and deeper into your lies? I don’t understand why guys can’t be real and give us the option if we want to involve ourselves with their games. Shoot, if you got a girl, wife, hoes, or whatever, let me make the choice if I want to step into that mess. At least, I can be aware of what I am walking into. What really kills me is the guys talking about the reason the do what they do is because they can’t find a QUALITY woman. Is quality what you’re looking for? I am really starting to think quality means beautiful, uneducated, unemployed, no ambition, seasonal, groupie, gold digging ass female. Basically the girl that all the niggas drool over, and want the other guys to say daaaaaaamn is that you? Well of course, it will all come to light that she probably gets around, has no loyalty, and is around because it is beneficial to her. All of a sudden a light comes on and oh boy realizes he needs to drop her. So the reason quality women can’t be found is because guys are blinded by all the other bullshit. Last time I checked, all my girls are QUALITY women; COLLEGE degree, REAL job, goals, 401k plan, BEAUTIFUL, pretty much the total package. But they are still on the market because dudes can’t seem to get their shit together. Also, they aren’t ready for a woman who is I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T. Most men want to feel like they can take care of their girl, which is completely understandable. Why not choose the female that has it all going for her and can contribute to our life, rather than choosing the one that needs you for everything. It doesn’t make you less of a man because your girl doesn’t need you financially.
Here is the solution to the problem: be like men. KEEP A TEAM. No, your eyes aren’t playing tricks on you. Yes, I am advising everyone to have a TEAM. Basketball, Baseball or do it big and go with a football team. Why not make the playing field fair? Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying go and have sex with your entire team (although that is what most of the fellas do). It is hard to find one guy to fulfill all your wants and needs, so you might as well find a handful that can make it happen. If there is someone you enjoy eating out with, keep them around to go to dinner with. Find the guy that can be romantic and will do sweet things for you. Maybe there is one that not really on your level but he can fulfill your late night fantasies, might as well add him to the roster as well. At the end of the day your feelings won’t be caught up in a dude who is doing his dirt while you’re thinking you are the one (you will be doing the same thing). I am sure a lot of you are thinking Stac has lost her mind. Nope, this is the best advice that has been given to me. I am too accomplished to deal with bullshit. At this time, most of us (not all) have a lot going for us and why fuck it all up because of some guy? At this point why make sacrifices for someone who is not willing to do the same thing for you? Don’t believe the hype…talk is cheap. At the end of the day, if you don’t look out for yourself NO ONE else will. In closing, GO BIG OR GO HOME!! Please believe I am going BIG…Most likely when you’re not caught up in finding Mr. Right he will come when you least expect it. Until then Imma Do ME!!
*I am NOT suggesting anyone lie about what they are doing, so please don’t mistake what I am saying…ALWAYS KEEP IT REAL*
*The Draft is coming up….make sure you’re on point (those of you who want a shot). Lmao*
Thank you Mr. REAL (you know who you are)
Why do males always jump to answer their phones? I mean I let my sit and ring, I have nothing to hide....and to my knowledge he has nothing to hide either.
OMG I had to deal with a "babies mom" recently... Ok yes I am with the father of your baby. But he is no longer with you and I'm not fucking you so why are you so worried about me. Basically guys need to get their situation together with the past females..or make it work with them. Sometimes I feel its h ard to date a guy with kids, because the time spent with me could be the time in his childs life..... hmmm am I selfish!
I don't think 100% of is about guys getting their baby mama drama in order. When you think about it at the end of the day you're making the choice to be in a relationship with a guy that has kid(s). Therefore; you are going into the relationship knowing that he has baggage, at a certain point you have to accept the fact that SHE is going to be around no matter what. In regards to be selfish, I don't think you are. It is naturally to want attention, but know you will NEVER be number one! His child[ren] are, and if he is making you a priority over his child[ren] then there is a serious problem, he basically is showing you his true colors.
Personally, being in your early/mid 20s I wouldn't date someone with kids. I just feel there are plenty of guys with no kids and you are putting yourself in a trying situation. I think at this time being young you would want to be with someone you can START a family with down the future...that's just my opinion..Good luck with that!
oh and about dudes jumping to their phones I can't stand that ish...I always feel like that means they are hiding something...hmmmmm
why do guys always fail to leave on that they have FEMALE friends?? Or if they go out with a FEMALE they will just say I went out with my friend...But if they are with their boys they say my boy! WTF...must Men or shall I say BOYS be so predictable!?
My current boyfriend messed with this girl in the past.. that I am not very fond of and she doesn't care for me. She has a bad rep whatever... so he tells me about his past.. I ask him not to communicate with her.. what is there for you guys to talk about? If you are so into keeping me happy then just cut this chick off. To make a long story short, one day I deleted her number. Recently I looked in his phone.. and he saved her in under her nickname. So I changed her name in his phone to
" I'm Not Stupid!". Why are guys so sneaky I guess I am commenting on. Like I am willing to let my past guys go, even the guys I had a serious relationship with. I feel this was a very sneaky move. Is he holding onto something with her or am I being paranoid?
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Right now I am sooo sick of the male species. There has been only male that I been with that I can honestly say I would go back to him in a heart beat, I just feel like he is my soulmate. But most men I just feel like are little boys, and half of them I do not trust. I feel like they just destroy anything within their reach. How can they claim women are the most beautiful species on earth, but all they do is hurt. They hurt mentally, physically, and emotionally.
love the idea for you blog!! it sounds like fun lets do some male bashing..lol just kidding!
I need you bad like the air I breath! Never feel that way about a male. I have tried to give my all in my current relationship and I am continuously getting hurt. My Mom always said to date a man who loves you more than you love him. At the beginning of my relationship that's how it was. Now it has completely turned the upside the fuck down. Maybe it was too much about me in the beginning. That wasn't my choice it was his, but now he has his asshole on his face. And my heart is on my sleeve getting bleached and not washed on the hand wash cycle.How much can one put up with? I don't know if I am getting to my limit, and in a way I don't want to. But I can do bad all by myself and not get my heart broken. I thought when you were in a relationship and in "love" you were supposed to vibe to the slow love songs. Instead I have clung to Jazmine , Keri Hilson, and Keyshia Cole. And no love songs on there can get to me. Only the busting out windows and my foolish heart. Many people are saying its the beginning of the relationship and there is a lot to learn about your partner, and maybe that's where we are. Discovering what we like and dislike about one another. But when does this so called Honeymoon stage end and start again? Can I be happy and comfortable in my relationship anytime soon. Or is it too late and we are both unhappy and should move on. This love this sucks!!
So my stain is bleached out. The ex-boyfriend. But I am really going through it. Why do guys love you hard and then when you love them back they drag your heart through the mud, c-walk on it, and 2 step like its nothing to them. How can guys deal with breakups so much easier than girls. I mean all it takes is for them to play a few video games, and you have the females... crying, depressed, drinking, and thinking life is over. I have never been a weak female but this one hit me hard. Several glasses of wine, Makers Mark, and some Patron shots later.... I still had no conclusion and have still tried to contact my down grade of a ex- boyfriend. How the fuck long will it take to move on.
A wise person once said, "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." A break-up is a hard thing to get over but you need to not waste time and dwell on what could've been and focus on how you are going to come on top. Remember it is okay to cry and be depressed, we all have to let our emotions out sometimes. It doesn't make you weak beacue you happened to fall hard and you're depressed. Don't forget you are the beholder of your destiny and happiness. So pick-up the pieces and start to make moves. Don't stop loving and giving relationships a try...when the right one comes along you will know. Consider this another lesson learned on this roller coastr called life. Keep ya head up!
I'm going to make a blog about Men's harships! FTW! jk - great stuff OOOOZZZEEEY! @goodguy76
this is a great idea!!!
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